An Ode To My Hair: Naturally

Call me what you want to call me
Vain I may be
But I felt my heart break into pieces
When he said Bald would be me

I remembered the times I hated my hair
That I Cursed my curls
Although they were tight & puffy
I was the envy of many girls

For I didn't have to drown my hair in products
It curled naturally
Just water & gel for my baby hairs
And then my curls would be set free

Always scared to get it straightened
Thought my hair would fall out
I took my chances with dyes & highlights
The ombre I was all about

Fell in love with a chestnut brown
I thought this was it
No need to keep dying 
The search for the perfect color would quit 

I always said one day I would go back to natural 
Dye it dark again & do a long bob
But something bigger & stronger
That moment would rob

For life had another meaning of what natural would be
I was thinking my god given color, no fuss or care
But instead what life gave me
Was no hair 

No, it wasnt from the things I worried about
Blonde highlights or the keratin
That is not why it fell out

Only something stronger it could be
The last thing I thought
But it was chemotherapy

It all fell out
Strong soldiers they were not
And to make it worse
My lashes and brows would soon join the boycott

Each strand left me
When I needed it most
To say Screw you Cancer
Your party I will not host

After every cycle, they would make a little appearance
But before I knew it, it would happen again
Total clearance 

So here I am, last cycle is done
Waiting to see what my hair will become

Feeling hopeful & reborn
a new definition of living naturally
Learning & Loving to be simply me

13 Love Quotes Inspired by Jennifer Lopez

Three walks down the aisle, two high profile relationships (Bennifer anyone?) and her recent relationship with Casper Smart has given Jennifer Lopez plenty of experience in the love department. Finding true love continues to inspire the Puerto Rican super star as she just dropped her second single “First Love” from her soon to be released 10th album. Some her quotes on love and relationships are sure to inspire you as well. And today is the perfect day to share this post with all of you since it is Ms.Lopez's birthday!

“I’m at that point in my life where when it comes to relationships, I’m not going to settle. I deserve something great."

“Love for me is a journey. It’s not a destination. It’s not something you arrive at.”

“If you don’t love yourself, you can’t love anybody else. And I think as women we really forget that.”  

“Always remember, you will live, you will love, you will dance again.” 

 “I just believe in love. I believe that when two people find each other and love each other, they should be able to spend their lives together."

“It’s about finding a relationship that has enough good stuff to outweigh the bad, because nobody’s perfect right?” 

“I think you can love many different people, but that’s different from what makes a great partner in life.“

“When you love somebody so much that you're willing to work to be a better person, and that other person is willing to do the same for you, that's when you have magic in a bottle. And that’s not easy to find."

“I want a bit of chaos in a relationship, but I also want a bit of safety and order. “ 

“The dream is to have a balance where you feel you could relinquish control from time to time and still be taken care of.”

"Sometimes we don't realize that we are compromising ourselves. To understand that a person is not good for you, or that that person is not treating you in the right way, or that he is not doing the right thing for himself—if I stay, then I am not doing the right thing for me.” 

“Sometimes it doesn’t work—and that’s sad. But I remain an eternal optimist about love.” 

“Love to me is someone telling me, “I want to be with you for the rest of my life, and if you needed me to I’d jump out of a plane for you”.

Share any quotes you love about love below!

Is it better to have loved and lost than to not have ever loved at all?

Sometimes people ask "Is it better to have loved and lost than to not have ever loved at all?" Here I share my brief thoughts on the matter. It really depends on what matters most to you.
If you can imagine your life without the intensity of loving someone with every ounce of you, without knowing what it is to have someone add such gratification to your life, to add to it's meaning, stay away. If you can imagine your life without the inspiration that being in love and feeling loved brings to your life, then don't fall in love. 

Love is not for the weak of heart. No, love is not meant to hurt you or sacrifice your self-worth but people continue to have this misconception that love is only meant to be beautiful and extraordinary. And it is those things. But love is hard work. It is a daily choice and it is a daily risk. When you love someone, you make a daily effort to accept their good and their flaws and even your own flaws will be brought out for you to examine them yourself. You will see all the issues that you have whether its from childhood, prior relationships, or your own insecurities magnified. And it can be very painful. But love is what gets you through. 

And heartbreak, well heartbreak is brutal. People say heartbreak is the second closest thing to death. It might sound dramatic, especially to those who have experienced death. But it's not far from it. 

So back to my question, "is it better to have loved and lost than to not have ever loved at all?" That's for you to decide. I can't answer that question for you. Like I said, love is hard work. It can be ugly and it can hurt. So if you wan't to live your life with no scars and no band-aids to cover up your wounds, stay away. But just know that you're missing out. You will never know how much more beautiful you can become if you let your heart open to someone elses love.

Uninspired to Inspired in 3 steps!

So many of us find ourselves in moments when we are extremely productive, working super hard, taking on the world and then some. But what goes up must come down and there will come the times that we are just in a "funk". Lack of inspiration makes it really hard to feel excited about our day to day activities. In an article that was written for, I shared 3 tips that can shorten the time span of this "funk" and help you get back on track to living your inspirational life!

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Valentine's Day Make-up Look

Valentine’s Day is right around the corner and you most likely fall into one of these categories:

  • ·      Going out on a hot date with someone you love
  • ·      Planning a girls night out to celebrate the single life
  • ·      Living your life like you normally would on any other Friday night

Either way, it falls on a Friday and unless you’re snowed in like a lot of us New Yorkers have been lately, you should be planning to have a fun night out!

So with the help of a very special friend, I have a fun and flirty makeup look for you to try on this Valentine’s Day! Celebrity make-up artist, Whitney Coss, most prominently known for her work on VHI’s Love & Hip-Hop New York, shared this make-up look with her 22 thousand Instagram followers and I am now sharing it with all of you. 

To help you re-create this look, here are the products she used on the model above.

MAC's Mineralize Powder in "Dark" for contouring face

Ben Nye "Banana" Powder to set concealer under eyes and for highlighting

MAC's Studio Finish Concealer in NC30 for under eyes and more contouring
"Take Me to Brazil" eyeshadow palette by BH Cosmetics. The top right purple color was used for the base color on eyelids
"Carbon" eyeshadow by MAC on the crease/outer corner and on bottom water line
MAC's eyeliner pencil in "Feline" for bottom water line
Kat Von D liquid eyeliner in "Puro Amor"
"They're Real!" mascara by Benefit
MAC "Myth" Lipstick
To see more of Whitney's work on the gorgeous Love and Hip-Hop girls like Tahiry Jose, Erica Mena, and Cyn Santana make sure to follow her on instagram: and for future bookings/inquiries email her at If you'll be in New York on February 23rd, make sure to reserve your spot at Whitney's Make-up 101 class which will be held at Beauty Bar. More information can be found on her instagram page.

Hope you have fun trying out this make-up look and that all you ladies, taken or not, have a great Valentine's Day!

Signs You Grew Up Dominican

Feliz Mes de la Independencia Dominicana! What perfect timing to begin celebrating Dominican Independence Day on the 27th of this month with a fun article on Dominican culture!

Signs You Grew Up Dominican

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1. You always opt for tres golpes over eggs and bacon.
You can never go wrong with the breakfast of champions: mangu, fried salami, and fried white cheese.
2. Nothing can make you as happy and as miserable at the same time as listening to bachata.
You start off excited for the song, then all of a sudden you start thinking about your ex.
3. You go to a baby shower for two things only: Pastelitos and quipes.
4. You are convinced Dominicans make the best cake on earth.
Fondant has nothing on supiro.
5. You take “fashionably late” to the next level.
"Voy en camino" really means "I haven’t started getting ready yet."
6. You dreaded house parties as a kid.
All your tias and tios would force you to dance when all you really wanted was to watch them play dominoes.

Fall in Love with YOU!

Here's an oldie but a goodie. It was my first article published in an online magazine a year and a half ago. And since February is the month of love and romance, it is perfect timing to re-introduce tips on how to love YOURSELF!

How many times have you fallen in love?  Once? Perhaps more?
When we’re truly in love with someone, we think about that person all the time and do special things for them. We want to spend time with them.  But, I ask you: Have you ever fallen in love with you?
Learning to love and take care of the person in the mirror can be quite a task. Between our busy work schedule and finding time for our careers, families and other obligations, it’s easy to lose track of the one special person who needs us the most — ourselves!
Whether you’re young, older, single without kids, or married with a soccer team, most women can agree that there are areas of self-love that they can improve.  No one in this world can love you more than yourself.
Want to fall in love with you?  Start with these three powerful tips!  
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