13 Love Quotes Inspired by Jennifer Lopez

Three walks down the aisle, two high profile relationships (Bennifer anyone?) and her recent relationship with Casper Smart has given Jennifer Lopez plenty of experience in the love department. Finding true love continues to inspire the Puerto Rican super star as she just dropped her second single “First Love” from her soon to be released 10th album. Some her quotes on love and relationships are sure to inspire you as well. And today is the perfect day to share this post with all of you since it is Ms.Lopez's birthday!

“I’m at that point in my life where when it comes to relationships, I’m not going to settle. I deserve something great."

“Love for me is a journey. It’s not a destination. It’s not something you arrive at.”

“If you don’t love yourself, you can’t love anybody else. And I think as women we really forget that.”  

“Always remember, you will live, you will love, you will dance again.” 

 “I just believe in love. I believe that when two people find each other and love each other, they should be able to spend their lives together."

“It’s about finding a relationship that has enough good stuff to outweigh the bad, because nobody’s perfect right?” 

“I think you can love many different people, but that’s different from what makes a great partner in life.“

“When you love somebody so much that you're willing to work to be a better person, and that other person is willing to do the same for you, that's when you have magic in a bottle. And that’s not easy to find."

“I want a bit of chaos in a relationship, but I also want a bit of safety and order. “ 

“The dream is to have a balance where you feel you could relinquish control from time to time and still be taken care of.”

"Sometimes we don't realize that we are compromising ourselves. To understand that a person is not good for you, or that that person is not treating you in the right way, or that he is not doing the right thing for himself—if I stay, then I am not doing the right thing for me.” 

“Sometimes it doesn’t work—and that’s sad. But I remain an eternal optimist about love.” 

“Love to me is someone telling me, “I want to be with you for the rest of my life, and if you needed me to I’d jump out of a plane for you”.

Share any quotes you love about love below!

Is it better to have loved and lost than to not have ever loved at all?

Sometimes people ask "Is it better to have loved and lost than to not have ever loved at all?" Here I share my brief thoughts on the matter. It really depends on what matters most to you.
If you can imagine your life without the intensity of loving someone with every ounce of you, without knowing what it is to have someone add such gratification to your life, to add to it's meaning, stay away. If you can imagine your life without the inspiration that being in love and feeling loved brings to your life, then don't fall in love. 

Love is not for the weak of heart. No, love is not meant to hurt you or sacrifice your self-worth but people continue to have this misconception that love is only meant to be beautiful and extraordinary. And it is those things. But love is hard work. It is a daily choice and it is a daily risk. When you love someone, you make a daily effort to accept their good and their flaws and even your own flaws will be brought out for you to examine them yourself. You will see all the issues that you have whether its from childhood, prior relationships, or your own insecurities magnified. And it can be very painful. But love is what gets you through. 

And heartbreak, well heartbreak is brutal. People say heartbreak is the second closest thing to death. It might sound dramatic, especially to those who have experienced death. But it's not far from it. 

So back to my question, "is it better to have loved and lost than to not have ever loved at all?" That's for you to decide. I can't answer that question for you. Like I said, love is hard work. It can be ugly and it can hurt. So if you wan't to live your life with no scars and no band-aids to cover up your wounds, stay away. But just know that you're missing out. You will never know how much more beautiful you can become if you let your heart open to someone elses love.

Uninspired to Inspired in 3 steps!

So many of us find ourselves in moments when we are extremely productive, working super hard, taking on the world and then some. But what goes up must come down and there will come the times that we are just in a "funk". Lack of inspiration makes it really hard to feel excited about our day to day activities. In an article that was written for NewLatina.net, I shared 3 tips that can shorten the time span of this "funk" and help you get back on track to living your inspirational life!

Click here to read the full article: http://newlatina.net/3-tips-thatll-take-uninspired-inspired/

Valentine's Day Make-up Look

Valentine’s Day is right around the corner and you most likely fall into one of these categories:

  • ·      Going out on a hot date with someone you love
  • ·      Planning a girls night out to celebrate the single life
  • ·      Living your life like you normally would on any other Friday night

Either way, it falls on a Friday and unless you’re snowed in like a lot of us New Yorkers have been lately, you should be planning to have a fun night out!

So with the help of a very special friend, I have a fun and flirty makeup look for you to try on this Valentine’s Day! Celebrity make-up artist, Whitney Coss, most prominently known for her work on VHI’s Love & Hip-Hop New York, shared this make-up look with her 22 thousand Instagram followers and I am now sharing it with all of you. 

To help you re-create this look, here are the products she used on the model above.

MAC's Mineralize Powder in "Dark" for contouring face

Ben Nye "Banana" Powder to set concealer under eyes and for highlighting

MAC's Studio Finish Concealer in NC30 for under eyes and more contouring
"Take Me to Brazil" eyeshadow palette by BH Cosmetics. The top right purple color was used for the base color on eyelids
"Carbon" eyeshadow by MAC on the crease/outer corner and on bottom water line
MAC's eyeliner pencil in "Feline" for bottom water line
Kat Von D liquid eyeliner in "Puro Amor"
"They're Real!" mascara by Benefit
MAC "Myth" Lipstick
To see more of Whitney's work on the gorgeous Love and Hip-Hop girls like Tahiry Jose, Erica Mena, and Cyn Santana make sure to follow her on instagram: http://instagram.com/lipstickqueenx and for future bookings/inquiries email her at cosswhitney@yahoo.com. If you'll be in New York on February 23rd, make sure to reserve your spot at Whitney's Make-up 101 class which will be held at Beauty Bar. More information can be found on her instagram page.

Hope you have fun trying out this make-up look and that all you ladies, taken or not, have a great Valentine's Day!

Signs You Grew Up Dominican

Feliz Mes de la Independencia Dominicana! What perfect timing to begin celebrating Dominican Independence Day on the 27th of this month with a fun article on Dominican culture!

Signs You Grew Up Dominican

This article originally appeared on cosmopolitan.com
1. You always opt for tres golpes over eggs and bacon.
You can never go wrong with the breakfast of champions: mangu, fried salami, and fried white cheese.
2. Nothing can make you as happy and as miserable at the same time as listening to bachata.
You start off excited for the song, then all of a sudden you start thinking about your ex.
3. You go to a baby shower for two things only: Pastelitos and quipes.
4. You are convinced Dominicans make the best cake on earth.
Fondant has nothing on supiro.
5. You take “fashionably late” to the next level.
"Voy en camino" really means "I haven’t started getting ready yet."
6. You dreaded house parties as a kid.
All your tias and tios would force you to dance when all you really wanted was to watch them play dominoes.

Fall in Love with YOU!

Here's an oldie but a goodie. It was my first article published in an online magazine a year and a half ago. And since February is the month of love and romance, it is perfect timing to re-introduce tips on how to love YOURSELF!

How many times have you fallen in love?  Once? Perhaps more?
When we’re truly in love with someone, we think about that person all the time and do special things for them. We want to spend time with them.  But, I ask you: Have you ever fallen in love with you?
Learning to love and take care of the person in the mirror can be quite a task. Between our busy work schedule and finding time for our careers, families and other obligations, it’s easy to lose track of the one special person who needs us the most — ourselves!
Whether you’re young, older, single without kids, or married with a soccer team, most women can agree that there are areas of self-love that they can improve.  No one in this world can love you more than yourself.
Want to fall in love with you?  Start with these three powerful tips!  
To continue reading this article, click here:  http://newlatina.net/have-you-ever-fallen-in-love-with-you/

And to read more of my New Latina articles, you can visit my author page at:   http://newlatina.net/author/minervaguerrero/

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Open Letter to David

Grief is something we all experience at some point in our lives. It could be grieving the end of a relationship, a friendship, the loss of a job, or the death of a loved one. Everyone experiences grief differently but we all have to accept that grief will hit us one day. No one knows how long it will last or how bad it will feel. You just have to go through it and it will get better.
            When it comes to a death of a loved one, you don’t really get better. You just learn how to live with it. You will have days where you’re fine and accepting of your situation. And then there are other days where grief overcomes you and you have no idea how you’re going to go on. But you will.
Sometimes when my clients are overwhelmed with grief and are unable to verbalize their grief, I suggest writing a letter. A lot of them find it helpful and feel a lot better afterwards. So, after experiencing my own grief after a friend of mine died last year, I decided to take my own advice and I wrote him a letter. And I’m going to share it with all of you.

Dear David,
I still can’t believe that you’re gone. And to make it worse, I can’t believe that I found out 3 months after the fact. I was angry with you for not reaching out to me after we said that we were going to go out for drinks to catch up. I also had been super busy since the last time we spoke in July. Two of my friends were in their last trimesters of pregnancy, I was preparing for a baby shower, studying for an exam, teaching a class, and working full-time. July-December was a complete blur to me and I am now slowly coming back into my normal routine. So on top of the fact that I was annoyed with you, I have to be honest and say that I was too busy to really notice how long it had been since we had spoken.
So there I am, Tuesday, December 3rd around 10:15 a.m. just getting to my office after teaching my class and I’m on the phone with my best friend while snooping around on my Facebook (I’m quite the multi-tasker) and I see that someone left a comment on your page that made no sense to me. My best friend is telling me something on the phone and I couldn’t believe the words that were coming out of my mouth: “Oh My God, David died. Wait, I don't get it. I have to call you back”. That’s when I scroll through all of the comments on your page from your friends and family posting pictures up of you and writing to you about how much they miss you and I literally felt like I was in the twilight zone. My first thought was that this was a terrible joke or that I was on someone else’s page.  Then I thought, David must have gotten into some terrible kind of trouble and had to fake his death. Who even thinks something like that? This very lost and confused girl does. I sent two facebook messages to two people (Michele & Cynthia) hoping that they could fill me in on the sick joke that was on your facebook page and that’s when they told me about the accident. I even googled it, “David Mercado, motorcycle accident, saw mill, yonkers" and for some reason, that’s when it really registered in my head. And I just felt a sharp pain in my chest….For you, for your mom, for your family….
December 3rd forever changed my life. (It sounds so cliché, I know) At my job, I hear about people dying all the time. Mothers who have lost their sons due to suicide or murder, people who have lost their brothers, women who have lost their husbands, but this time it happened to me. I lost a good friend who was funny, caring, and one of the sweetest people I have ever met. 25 years old... with your entire life ahead of you…your mother’s only biological child…and my friend. How can I claim to be your friend when it took me 3 months to even find out that you were gone? I was so embarrassed when Cynthia asked me how we were friends because the first thing that came to my head was that she had to be wondering “What kind of friend is this girl if now is when she’s finding out?” It was embarrassing. But you know what, I’m over that. Yes, I was 3 months late but my pain is just the same as if I would’ve found out sooner. No, I didn’t get to say my goodbye and go to your funeral, which makes me so sad, but I’m grieving your loss just like everyone else who did attend. No, I didn’t get to give your mom a hug and tell her how sorry I am for her loss in person but the moment I found out, she was the first person I thought about and I have been thinking about her and praying for her since. And no, we weren’t super close; we spoke every couple of months for just a few texts where we would cover the basics: Our relationships, family, our dogs, school and work. But the last time we spoke was different. We actually spoke for a lot longer because we were talking about your Dreams Vacation and I quickly let you know that I was not interested as I had already heard all about it from other friends (Even though you insisted that I would be great at selling vacations..HA!) And then we said we would go out for drinks and I was really looking forward to it. And it never happened.
I am heartbroken. And I miss you so much and you might even find it weird that I do considering that we barely spoke in the last couple of years. The last time I saw you was at the Cheesecake Factory.  I was with a friend going for dinner and you were working there. You were mad at me for not telling you that I was going beforehand but that fake anger shifted in 3 seconds and then you were all smiles. You flashed me that huge smile of yours for the entire 5 minutes that we were catching up. That was your trademark. I wish we would’ve gone out like we were supposed to. I envisioned us catching up gossiping like two girls and you making fun of my terrible driving. And of course you lecturing me on relationships (not that you were an expert). Speaking of your lectures, the last thing I remember you telling me when we were talking about relationships was something along the lines of “You deserve to be happy and to be with someone who makes you feel amazing”. Just know that even though I didn’t really respond to it, I heard you and it’s always in my head.
What I’m mostly sad about is that I didn’t get a chance to really tell you how awesome I thought you were and how thankful I am to have known you and how much I appreciated your kindness to both me and my family. And most importantly, how sorry I am that I didn’t really let our friendship grow as I really wanted it to. I let a lot of things get in the way of us being friends, always thinking that there was a ton of time for us to hang out or for us to talk. That’s the thing about time. You never know when it’s up.  We all constantly hear to appreciate people before they’re gone and to tell people that we love them and to let people know how much they mean to us when they’re alive, not when they’re gone. And then “something” happens to us when those things finally make sense. And that “something” happened to me. I lost my friend. You’ll never bring me over a brownie with ice cream at Red Lobster (even though I did not ask for it) and I’ll never hear you say the most random things in conversations. (I’ll do you the favor and I won’t even give an example of one lol). I saw your cousin Eric’s video on Facebook where he talked about knowing that you made it into heaven because of a dime that he found with your birthdate and your initial on it. I don’t know him but his video was so comforting for me. I would normally not believe something like that. But I do. I’m not sure if I really believe it or if I just want to believe it to feel some type of comfort knowing that you are where you are supposed to be. But I know that you are in heaven. And I know that you can see me and hear me. I will carry you always in my heart. I hope you left this Earth knowing you ARE special. That people love you and always will even though you’re not physically here anymore. And I hope you know that your spirit will last more than lifetime.  That’s the thing about death. Your body is what leaves us. But your soul, the memories people have of you, the love in people’s hearts for you….Well that just lasts forever.....

For any of you that are experiencing your own grief or just miss someone and want to express how you feel, I really do suggest getting your thoughts down on paper. There are no rules on how to do so.  If you have any other suggestions on how to cope with grief, please share in the comments below.

Thank you for reading!