Valentine's Day Make-up Look

Valentine’s Day is right around the corner and you most likely fall into one of these categories:

  • ·      Going out on a hot date with someone you love
  • ·      Planning a girls night out to celebrate the single life
  • ·      Living your life like you normally would on any other Friday night

Either way, it falls on a Friday and unless you’re snowed in like a lot of us New Yorkers have been lately, you should be planning to have a fun night out!

So with the help of a very special friend, I have a fun and flirty makeup look for you to try on this Valentine’s Day! Celebrity make-up artist, Whitney Coss, most prominently known for her work on VHI’s Love & Hip-Hop New York, shared this make-up look with her 22 thousand Instagram followers and I am now sharing it with all of you. 



To help you re-create this look, here are the products she used on the model above.

MAC's Mineralize Powder in "Dark" for contouring face

Ben Nye "Banana" Powder to set concealer under eyes and for highlighting

MAC's Studio Finish Concealer in NC30 for under eyes and more contouring
"Take Me to Brazil" eyeshadow palette by BH Cosmetics. The top right purple color was used for the base color on eyelids
"Carbon" eyeshadow by MAC on the crease/outer corner and on bottom water line
MAC's eyeliner pencil in "Feline" for bottom water line
Kat Von D liquid eyeliner in "Puro Amor"
"They're Real!" mascara by Benefit
MAC "Myth" Lipstick
To see more of Whitney's work on the gorgeous Love and Hip-Hop girls like Tahiry Jose, Erica Mena, and Cyn Santana make sure to follow her on instagram: http://instagram.com/lipstickqueenx and for future bookings/inquiries email her at cosswhitney@yahoo.com. If you'll be in New York on February 23rd, make sure to reserve your spot at Whitney's Make-up 101 class which will be held at Beauty Bar. More information can be found on her instagram page.

Hope you have fun trying out this make-up look and that all you ladies, taken or not, have a great Valentine's Day!

Signs You Grew Up Dominican

Feliz Mes de la Independencia Dominicana! What perfect timing to begin celebrating Dominican Independence Day on the 27th of this month with a fun article on Dominican culture!

Signs You Grew Up Dominican

This article originally appeared on cosmopolitan.com
1. You always opt for tres golpes over eggs and bacon.
You can never go wrong with the breakfast of champions: mangu, fried salami, and fried white cheese.
2. Nothing can make you as happy and as miserable at the same time as listening to bachata.
You start off excited for the song, then all of a sudden you start thinking about your ex.
3. You go to a baby shower for two things only: Pastelitos and quipes.
4. You are convinced Dominicans make the best cake on earth.
Fondant has nothing on supiro.
5. You take “fashionably late” to the next level.
"Voy en camino" really means "I haven’t started getting ready yet."
6. You dreaded house parties as a kid.
All your tias and tios would force you to dance when all you really wanted was to watch them play dominoes.

Fall in Love with YOU!

Here's an oldie but a goodie. It was my first article published in an online magazine a year and a half ago. And since February is the month of love and romance, it is perfect timing to re-introduce tips on how to love YOURSELF!


How many times have you fallen in love?  Once? Perhaps more?
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When we’re truly in love with someone, we think about that person all the time and do special things for them. We want to spend time with them.  But, I ask you: Have you ever fallen in love with you?
Learning to love and take care of the person in the mirror can be quite a task. Between our busy work schedule and finding time for our careers, families and other obligations, it’s easy to lose track of the one special person who needs us the most — ourselves!
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Whether you’re young, older, single without kids, or married with a soccer team, most women can agree that there are areas of self-love that they can improve.  No one in this world can love you more than yourself.
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Want to fall in love with you?  Start with these three powerful tips!  
To continue reading this article, click here:  http://newlatina.net/have-you-ever-fallen-in-love-with-you/

And to read more of my New Latina articles, you can visit my author page at:   http://newlatina.net/author/minervaguerrero/

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Open Letter to David

Grief is something we all experience at some point in our lives. It could be grieving the end of a relationship, a friendship, the loss of a job, or the death of a loved one. Everyone experiences grief differently but we all have to accept that grief will hit us one day. No one knows how long it will last or how bad it will feel. You just have to go through it and it will get better.
            When it comes to a death of a loved one, you don’t really get better. You just learn how to live with it. You will have days where you’re fine and accepting of your situation. And then there are other days where grief overcomes you and you have no idea how you’re going to go on. But you will.
Sometimes when my clients are overwhelmed with grief and are unable to verbalize their grief, I suggest writing a letter. A lot of them find it helpful and feel a lot better afterwards. So, after experiencing my own grief after a friend of mine died last year, I decided to take my own advice and I wrote him a letter. And I’m going to share it with all of you.

Dear David,
I still can’t believe that you’re gone. And to make it worse, I can’t believe that I found out 3 months after the fact. I was angry with you for not reaching out to me after we said that we were going to go out for drinks to catch up. I also had been super busy since the last time we spoke in July. Two of my friends were in their last trimesters of pregnancy, I was preparing for a baby shower, studying for an exam, teaching a class, and working full-time. July-December was a complete blur to me and I am now slowly coming back into my normal routine. So on top of the fact that I was annoyed with you, I have to be honest and say that I was too busy to really notice how long it had been since we had spoken.
So there I am, Tuesday, December 3rd around 10:15 a.m. just getting to my office after teaching my class and I’m on the phone with my best friend while snooping around on my Facebook (I’m quite the multi-tasker) and I see that someone left a comment on your page that made no sense to me. My best friend is telling me something on the phone and I couldn’t believe the words that were coming out of my mouth: “Oh My God, David died. Wait, I don't get it. I have to call you back”. That’s when I scroll through all of the comments on your page from your friends and family posting pictures up of you and writing to you about how much they miss you and I literally felt like I was in the twilight zone. My first thought was that this was a terrible joke or that I was on someone else’s page.  Then I thought, David must have gotten into some terrible kind of trouble and had to fake his death. Who even thinks something like that? This very lost and confused girl does. I sent two facebook messages to two people (Michele & Cynthia) hoping that they could fill me in on the sick joke that was on your facebook page and that’s when they told me about the accident. I even googled it, “David Mercado, motorcycle accident, saw mill, yonkers" and for some reason, that’s when it really registered in my head. And I just felt a sharp pain in my chest….For you, for your mom, for your family….
December 3rd forever changed my life. (It sounds so cliché, I know) At my job, I hear about people dying all the time. Mothers who have lost their sons due to suicide or murder, people who have lost their brothers, women who have lost their husbands, but this time it happened to me. I lost a good friend who was funny, caring, and one of the sweetest people I have ever met. 25 years old... with your entire life ahead of you…your mother’s only biological child…and my friend. How can I claim to be your friend when it took me 3 months to even find out that you were gone? I was so embarrassed when Cynthia asked me how we were friends because the first thing that came to my head was that she had to be wondering “What kind of friend is this girl if now is when she’s finding out?” It was embarrassing. But you know what, I’m over that. Yes, I was 3 months late but my pain is just the same as if I would’ve found out sooner. No, I didn’t get to say my goodbye and go to your funeral, which makes me so sad, but I’m grieving your loss just like everyone else who did attend. No, I didn’t get to give your mom a hug and tell her how sorry I am for her loss in person but the moment I found out, she was the first person I thought about and I have been thinking about her and praying for her since. And no, we weren’t super close; we spoke every couple of months for just a few texts where we would cover the basics: Our relationships, family, our dogs, school and work. But the last time we spoke was different. We actually spoke for a lot longer because we were talking about your Dreams Vacation and I quickly let you know that I was not interested as I had already heard all about it from other friends (Even though you insisted that I would be great at selling vacations..HA!) And then we said we would go out for drinks and I was really looking forward to it. And it never happened.
I am heartbroken. And I miss you so much and you might even find it weird that I do considering that we barely spoke in the last couple of years. The last time I saw you was at the Cheesecake Factory.  I was with a friend going for dinner and you were working there. You were mad at me for not telling you that I was going beforehand but that fake anger shifted in 3 seconds and then you were all smiles. You flashed me that huge smile of yours for the entire 5 minutes that we were catching up. That was your trademark. I wish we would’ve gone out like we were supposed to. I envisioned us catching up gossiping like two girls and you making fun of my terrible driving. And of course you lecturing me on relationships (not that you were an expert). Speaking of your lectures, the last thing I remember you telling me when we were talking about relationships was something along the lines of “You deserve to be happy and to be with someone who makes you feel amazing”. Just know that even though I didn’t really respond to it, I heard you and it’s always in my head.
What I’m mostly sad about is that I didn’t get a chance to really tell you how awesome I thought you were and how thankful I am to have known you and how much I appreciated your kindness to both me and my family. And most importantly, how sorry I am that I didn’t really let our friendship grow as I really wanted it to. I let a lot of things get in the way of us being friends, always thinking that there was a ton of time for us to hang out or for us to talk. That’s the thing about time. You never know when it’s up.  We all constantly hear to appreciate people before they’re gone and to tell people that we love them and to let people know how much they mean to us when they’re alive, not when they’re gone. And then “something” happens to us when those things finally make sense. And that “something” happened to me. I lost my friend. You’ll never bring me over a brownie with ice cream at Red Lobster (even though I did not ask for it) and I’ll never hear you say the most random things in conversations. (I’ll do you the favor and I won’t even give an example of one lol). I saw your cousin Eric’s video on Facebook where he talked about knowing that you made it into heaven because of a dime that he found with your birthdate and your initial on it. I don’t know him but his video was so comforting for me. I would normally not believe something like that. But I do. I’m not sure if I really believe it or if I just want to believe it to feel some type of comfort knowing that you are where you are supposed to be. But I know that you are in heaven. And I know that you can see me and hear me. I will carry you always in my heart. I hope you left this Earth knowing you ARE special. That people love you and always will even though you’re not physically here anymore. And I hope you know that your spirit will last more than lifetime.  That’s the thing about death. Your body is what leaves us. But your soul, the memories people have of you, the love in people’s hearts for you….Well that just lasts forever.....




For any of you that are experiencing your own grief or just miss someone and want to express how you feel, I really do suggest getting your thoughts down on paper. There are no rules on how to do so.  If you have any other suggestions on how to cope with grief, please share in the comments below.

Thank you for reading!

10 Signs You Are Dating A Machista

Machista...Macho...Man's Man...The Boss... Head Honcho... Big Daddy... 

These are just some terms that describe men who have the need to prove their manliness all the time. The term machista is very common in the Latino culture and although it is considered to be an old-school mentality, a lot of men still exhibit "machista" tendencies today. In my article for Cosmo for Latinas, I share 10 signs to look out for to help you figure out if your boyfriend is in fact, a machista!



To read my article "10 signs You're Dating a Machista", click here:
http://www.cosmopolitan.com/cosmo-latina/signs-youre-dating-a-machista?src=spr_FBPAGE&spr_id=40076

Enjoy ladies!

Help Save Mother Cabrini High School




Mother Cabrini High School is an all girls private school in Washington Heights and it needs your help! The school is scheduled to close in June 2014 due to finances. It is the only Catholic high school in its neighborhood and has been open for 115 years. Although I did not go to Mother Cabrini, I am truly saddened at the school’s closure. It will be a true disappointment to see a school dedicated to the professional and personal development of young women close. I am a proud graduate of Aquinas High School, an all girls private high school in the Bronx, and my alma mater means so much to me. I can only imagine how those that graduated from and are currently attending Mother Cabrini feel.

To read more about Mother Cabrini High School and its mission, visit their home page: http://www.cabrinihs.com

You can donate to help save the school from closing here: 

To sign the petition to help keep Mother Cabrini open:  
https://docs.google.com/forms/d/13aDxd0bLZhMEVpAHI8obFBD11NRO_EqYm6XK0VT6uBw/viewform

EVERY BIT HELPS! Please spread the world!

If you know of additional ways to help keep this school from closing, please let me know in the comments below!

14 Lessons Learned for 2014



As promised, here is Part II to my previous blog. I really hate the whole "New Year, New Me" bit but I do believe that every new year gives us another opportunity to get things right. So here are the 14 lessons that I am bringing into 2014. 
  1. My mom is my best friend. I knew this already but as I get older, it becomes crystal clear. She was, is, and will always be my #1 supporter. No one wants my happiness more than she does. The older I get, the more I understand, value, and respect the type of mother that she is. And she's so short and cute!
  2. Family does not mean blood related. I have a small group of friends who have become thicker than blood. I was not given biological sisters but God has blessed me with sisters anyway. I think that makes it special. And at least he let me pick them!  
  3. The way our parents raise us is either a blessing or a curse, or both. You will realize it in EVERY area of your life. You will see.
  4. Love changes. It grows. It dies. It intensifies. It comes and goes. And then comes right back stronger than ever. Or flies away with the wind. It does all of that right before our eyes and we don’t even notice. "We are not the same person this year as last; nor are those we love. It's a happy chance if we, changing, continue to love a changed person"- My favorite quote of all time!
  5. Your metabolism really does slow down as you get older and losing weight just becomes harder. Why oh why?!
  6. Social media can mess with your head. It's NOT that serious. Not everything that’s important belongs on your Instagram or Facebook page... Or does it?... Who knows?! Maybe I haven't actually figured this out.. Moving on.
  7. This might not make sense BUT I learned to believe in destiny and that God has life all planned out so don't even bother trying to alter his plans. BUT that does not mean you can just sit back and wait for things to happen. Life is 100% your responsibility. Things don't just happen. You need to work really hard to get what you want! It's an oxymoron I know but that's just what it is.
  8. We really are all fighting our own battle and we all want to make it... Make it where? Who knows? But we want to make it.
  9. You really should save your money. Like now! We work too hard to not have a dollar saved when we need it. And yet, you should enjoy it. Because guess what?... life is way too short so enjoy that new bag and you might as well get the wallet to match. But remember, there is more to life than a nice bag (note to self again). Spend your money on things that count like your education, your health, and a home. But still... You should definitely get the bag! Lol! It's so important to find a balance. Can you tell I haven't quite figured this out yet? I'm getting better!
  10. As you get older, you really hope that God is listening to your prayers. As your parents and grandparents get older, as your friends start having babies or you start to have your own, as you start to realize the things that really matter to you, you really hope that he is watching over whom you love.
  11. I learned that as amazing as we may think we are, there is always going to be someone more amazing. And that’s fine. Because when things aren’t going great for you, remember that they are going worse for someone else. It’s just what it is. Everyone has his or her ups/downs, strengths/ weaknesses and it is so important for us to recognize that.  We cannot be amazing at everything for we all deserve our chance to shine. We win some and we lose some.
  12. That whole "I only love you if you love me" bit is STUPID. We love who we love. We just have to learn to love wiser. Oh and karma... It really does exist. And it doesn’t forget about anyone.
  13. And on that note, loving yourself FIRST is crucial for the development of every other relationship you will have. We show others how to treat us. And if we don't love ourselves first because we're so busy giving our all to someone else, we make it okay for others to not love us unconditionally either.
  14. You will learn so much about who you are as a person when you are in a romantic relationship. In the beginning, middle, and end. When it’s good, bad, and ugly. But you will mostly learn about yourself when it's bad and ugly. Not just about yourself as a boyfriend or girlfriend but yourself as a person. And coincidentally, that’s when you learn the most about your significant other too. And with that said, relationships are HARD. They are a lot of work and both partners have to make a daily commitment to one another. It will not work if one person is doing all the work. Not even if that one person is giving 200%. 
So, there you have it.....Any lessons you learned in 2013 that you're bringing into 2014? Share your thoughts below!