November 9th, 2016

Today makes one year since I was declared to be cancer-free. I didn’t actually find this out until a few days before Christmas but this is the date that’s documented to be my remission date. After not being certain if I was actually in remission, finally hearing the words, “Your biopsy came back N.E.D. (no evidence of disease)” was just AMAZING! It had been a rough couple of months for me and my family and this was the news we had all been anxiously waiting for.

On October 9th of this year, my family and friends surprised me with a brunch party AND I was actually VERY SURPRISED! October 9th 2015 was the day that I was diagnosed with leukemia and even though we weren’t celebrating the day, we were celebrating our year-long journey together as a team where we all rallied together and kicked leukemia’s butt. Even though I do like to give my support team a lot of credit, let’s be honest here….I did all of the butt kicking! ;)  But I’m digressing.  And on this day, November 9th 2016, my friends and family surprised me again with a shower of love and support for my “one year in the clear”!!





Today, November 9th 2016, is also a tough day for me. It is the day that Hillary Clinton lost the U.S. presidency to her opponent. I supported Hillary and continue to do so and was really hoping & expecting her to win. I did feel that Hillary would have been a great president and I thought it was evident that she was clearly a better candidate than her opponent but it just didn’t happen. Hillary’s supporters believed in diversity, women’s rights, respect and support for others, including those different than us, family values and unity. And just as our First Lady, Michelle Obama said, Hillary believed that “when they go low, we go high”.

Her opponent, Donald Trump made it very clear during his campaign that he believed in instilling fear and wanted to exclude the very same minorities that Hillary was trying to unite. He believes in an America that is mostly white, straight, U.S. born, and Christian. I’m not going to waste time in reminding everyone of the racist, sexist, derogatory, disgusting, profane, hateful, and aggressive statements Mr.Trump has said of women, Muslims, Latinos, and the LGBTQ community, All you have to do is go on social media, YouTube, and any & every news site in the world to refresh your memory. However, half of our country has chosen that these things are acceptable, true to American values, and presidential. And for those of you that voted for Trump thinking that that is not what your vote meant, you are wrong.

Was I excited to finally have a female president? Yes. Did I feel inspired and empowered to see a qualified woman campaigning for the most powerful job in the United States of America? Yes. Am I upset she didn’t win? Yes. But I am more disappointed and saddened by something much greater than that. Hillary was not alone when she lost the campaign today. Something much greater lost with her and that is humanity. Hillary supporters are not just angry that she lost. We are angry that in her losing, our country just became one that it is less safe, less tolerable, and less unifying to vastly growing minority groups.

I’m a proud Latina born in the Dominican Republic. My family came to the United States when I was just two years old in search for a better future for all of us, but especially for me. My family has been one of hard work and sacrifice, starting from the bottom and inching its way up to achieve different aspects of what is considered the American dream. This country has given my family tremendous opportunities. However, I also give credit to the motivation, sacrifice and perseverance my family has demonstrated time and time again to take advantage of those opportunities. America has given me the opportunity to one day become Dr. Minerva Guerrero holding the highest level of educational degree our country knows, a PhD, in Mental Health Counseling. This country has also given me a second chance at life. The Dominican Republic was the home of my birth and the U.S. home of my rebirth. I say this as someone who is very aware that my cancer remission was achieved due to the quality health care this country was able to offer me that may not have been the case in my country of origin. My family and I are very grateful for this blessing.

And yet today, I don’t feel proud or grateful. To witness how Hillary Clinton has dedicated her entire life to politics, has worked so hard and is beyond qualified, and yet, she lost the presidential election to her opponent is so demoralizing. Hillary is proof that that a woman can work harder than everyone else and still have to compete against a man who is less qualified and yet this is not a feeling foreign to us women today. BUT it has been painful to watch & it is painful to know that not only did she lose the election but she lost it to Donald Trump.


So how do I move forward after this very emotional historic day? I have chosen that instead of focusing on whether or not I am proud to be an American today, it is more important that I focus on what I am proud of today.

I am proud of the life I live. I am proud of my dreams, my motivation, my strive for success to better myself and my future. I am proud of my perseverance and my will to live even after very difficult trying times. I am proud of my faith in God who has never left me alone even in the darkest places. I am proud of the people I love and that love me. These are my best friends, my boyfriend, my classmates and colleagues and even people that I do not know who have sent me sweet & kind messages. I am proud of my family who has always instilled in me that anything and everything is possible as long as I am a good person, work hard and fight for what is right. And even though, this was not evident today in the United States of America that we have migrated to, this is still evident in our hearts today.

So, where do we go from here? Our country needs to start talking about healing. We need to start praying and we need to stay close to our values of love, kindness, respect and justice. And we need to also pray for America’s President-Elect. It is not smart to wish for his downfall just to prove that America got it wrong. We must pray and hope for his success. For his success as President is our success as a nation.  And most importantly, as Hillary Clinton graciously said today during her concession speech, 

“To all the little girls who are watching this, never doubt that you are valuable, and powerful, and deserving of every chance and opportunity in the world to pursue and achieve your own dreams”. 




An Ode To My Hair: Naturally

Call me what you want to call me
Vain I may be
But I felt my heart break into pieces
When he said Bald would be me

I remembered the times I hated my hair
That I Cursed my curls
Although they were tight & puffy
I was the envy of many girls

For I didn't have to drown my hair in products
It curled naturally
Just water & gel for my baby hairs
And then my curls would be set free

Always scared to get it straightened
Thought my hair would fall out
I took my chances with dyes & highlights
The ombre I was all about

Fell in love with a chestnut brown
I thought this was it
No need to keep dying 
The search for the perfect color would quit 

I always said one day I would go back to natural 
Dye it dark again & do a long bob
But something bigger & stronger
That moment would rob

For life had another meaning of what natural would be
I was thinking my god given color, no fuss or care
But instead what life gave me
Was no hair 

No, it wasnt from the things I worried about
Blonde highlights or the keratin
That is not why it fell out

Only something stronger it could be
The last thing I thought
But it was chemotherapy

It all fell out
Strong soldiers they were not
And to make it worse
My lashes and brows would soon join the boycott

Each strand left me
When I needed it most
To say Screw you Cancer
Your party I will not host

After every cycle, they would make a little appearance
But before I knew it, it would happen again
Total clearance 

So here I am, last cycle is done
Waiting to see what my hair will become

Feeling hopeful & reborn
a new definition of living naturally
Learning & Loving to be simply me





13 Love Quotes Inspired by Jennifer Lopez


Three walks down the aisle, two high profile relationships (Bennifer anyone?) and her recent relationship with Casper Smart has given Jennifer Lopez plenty of experience in the love department. Finding true love continues to inspire the Puerto Rican super star as she just dropped her second single “First Love” from her soon to be released 10th album. Some her quotes on love and relationships are sure to inspire you as well. And today is the perfect day to share this post with all of you since it is Ms.Lopez's birthday!



“I’m at that point in my life where when it comes to relationships, I’m not going to settle. I deserve something great."

“Love for me is a journey. It’s not a destination. It’s not something you arrive at.”

“If you don’t love yourself, you can’t love anybody else. And I think as women we really forget that.”  

“Always remember, you will live, you will love, you will dance again.” 

 “I just believe in love. I believe that when two people find each other and love each other, they should be able to spend their lives together."

“It’s about finding a relationship that has enough good stuff to outweigh the bad, because nobody’s perfect right?” 

“I think you can love many different people, but that’s different from what makes a great partner in life.“

“When you love somebody so much that you're willing to work to be a better person, and that other person is willing to do the same for you, that's when you have magic in a bottle. And that’s not easy to find."

“I want a bit of chaos in a relationship, but I also want a bit of safety and order. “ 

“The dream is to have a balance where you feel you could relinquish control from time to time and still be taken care of.”

"Sometimes we don't realize that we are compromising ourselves. To understand that a person is not good for you, or that that person is not treating you in the right way, or that he is not doing the right thing for himself—if I stay, then I am not doing the right thing for me.” 

“Sometimes it doesn’t work—and that’s sad. But I remain an eternal optimist about love.” 

“Love to me is someone telling me, “I want to be with you for the rest of my life, and if you needed me to I’d jump out of a plane for you”.

Share any quotes you love about love below!

Is it better to have loved and lost than to not have ever loved at all?




Sometimes people ask "Is it better to have loved and lost than to not have ever loved at all?" Here I share my brief thoughts on the matter. It really depends on what matters most to you.
If you can imagine your life without the intensity of loving someone with every ounce of you, without knowing what it is to have someone add such gratification to your life, to add to it's meaning, stay away. If you can imagine your life without the inspiration that being in love and feeling loved brings to your life, then don't fall in love. 

Love is not for the weak of heart. No, love is not meant to hurt you or sacrifice your self-worth but people continue to have this misconception that love is only meant to be beautiful and extraordinary. And it is those things. But love is hard work. It is a daily choice and it is a daily risk. When you love someone, you make a daily effort to accept their good and their flaws and even your own flaws will be brought out for you to examine them yourself. You will see all the issues that you have whether its from childhood, prior relationships, or your own insecurities magnified. And it can be very painful. But love is what gets you through. 

And heartbreak, well heartbreak is brutal. People say heartbreak is the second closest thing to death. It might sound dramatic, especially to those who have experienced death. But it's not far from it. 

So back to my question, "is it better to have loved and lost than to not have ever loved at all?" That's for you to decide. I can't answer that question for you. Like I said, love is hard work. It can be ugly and it can hurt. So if you wan't to live your life with no scars and no band-aids to cover up your wounds, stay away. But just know that you're missing out. You will never know how much more beautiful you can become if you let your heart open to someone elses love.

Uninspired to Inspired in 3 steps!

So many of us find ourselves in moments when we are extremely productive, working super hard, taking on the world and then some. But what goes up must come down and there will come the times that we are just in a "funk". Lack of inspiration makes it really hard to feel excited about our day to day activities. In an article that was written for NewLatina.net, I shared 3 tips that can shorten the time span of this "funk" and help you get back on track to living your inspirational life!

Click here to read the full article: http://newlatina.net/3-tips-thatll-take-uninspired-inspired/



Valentine's Day Make-up Look

Valentine’s Day is right around the corner and you most likely fall into one of these categories:

  • ·      Going out on a hot date with someone you love
  • ·      Planning a girls night out to celebrate the single life
  • ·      Living your life like you normally would on any other Friday night

Either way, it falls on a Friday and unless you’re snowed in like a lot of us New Yorkers have been lately, you should be planning to have a fun night out!

So with the help of a very special friend, I have a fun and flirty makeup look for you to try on this Valentine’s Day! Celebrity make-up artist, Whitney Coss, most prominently known for her work on VHI’s Love & Hip-Hop New York, shared this make-up look with her 22 thousand Instagram followers and I am now sharing it with all of you. 



To help you re-create this look, here are the products she used on the model above.

MAC's Mineralize Powder in "Dark" for contouring face

Ben Nye "Banana" Powder to set concealer under eyes and for highlighting

MAC's Studio Finish Concealer in NC30 for under eyes and more contouring
"Take Me to Brazil" eyeshadow palette by BH Cosmetics. The top right purple color was used for the base color on eyelids
"Carbon" eyeshadow by MAC on the crease/outer corner and on bottom water line
MAC's eyeliner pencil in "Feline" for bottom water line
Kat Von D liquid eyeliner in "Puro Amor"
"They're Real!" mascara by Benefit
MAC "Myth" Lipstick
To see more of Whitney's work on the gorgeous Love and Hip-Hop girls like Tahiry Jose, Erica Mena, and Cyn Santana make sure to follow her on instagram: http://instagram.com/lipstickqueenx and for future bookings/inquiries email her at cosswhitney@yahoo.com. If you'll be in New York on February 23rd, make sure to reserve your spot at Whitney's Make-up 101 class which will be held at Beauty Bar. More information can be found on her instagram page.

Hope you have fun trying out this make-up look and that all you ladies, taken or not, have a great Valentine's Day!

Signs You Grew Up Dominican

Feliz Mes de la Independencia Dominicana! What perfect timing to begin celebrating Dominican Independence Day on the 27th of this month with a fun article on Dominican culture!

Signs You Grew Up Dominican

This article originally appeared on cosmopolitan.com
1. You always opt for tres golpes over eggs and bacon.
You can never go wrong with the breakfast of champions: mangu, fried salami, and fried white cheese.
2. Nothing can make you as happy and as miserable at the same time as listening to bachata.
You start off excited for the song, then all of a sudden you start thinking about your ex.
3. You go to a baby shower for two things only: Pastelitos and quipes.
4. You are convinced Dominicans make the best cake on earth.
Fondant has nothing on supiro.
5. You take “fashionably late” to the next level.
"Voy en camino" really means "I haven’t started getting ready yet."
6. You dreaded house parties as a kid.
All your tias and tios would force you to dance when all you really wanted was to watch them play dominoes.